Dear Barb:

Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. We get along great and I am in love with him. The problem is that he is still in touch with his ex-girlfriend on Facebook, plus he has her number in his cell, and I know he has called her a few times. I really feel uncomfortable about him communicating with her. When I mention it to him he says I am over-reacting and that they are just friends. I really don’t feel it is good to remain in contact with an ex. Am I way off base?
Tara

Hi Tara:

I would not say you are way off base, but some people choose to remain friendly with their ex, especially if there are children involved. If you are not comfortable with your boyfriend remaining in contact with his ex, then he should reconsider whether this relationship is worth the problems it will cause between the two of you. Perhaps if you can’t come to a resolution you may want to speak to a counselor together, as this will help your boyfriend to understand how you feel. Good luck!

Dear Barb:

I love Facebook and playing games, particularly Candy Crush, but I think it is taking over my life. I started out just playing occasionally, now I find myself really looking forward to playing this game. As soon as I finish breakfast I grab my tablet and play candy crush. When I pass a level I am so excited. When I’m not playing I’m thinking about playing. Do you think I have a problem or am I just having fun and passing time?
Kerry.

Hey Kerry:

Interesting question! Candy Crush is a popular game that I also play. After reading your question I began to wonder if I was addicted, so I went online to do some research. I found all kinds of information, this list from the website Geek in Heels being just one of them.

That’s a humorous view, but I’m sure all of us Candy Crusher’s can identify with some of the points. As with any addiction you might want to try to focus your attention on other things. Pick up a book instead of playing Candy Crush. Go for a walk, call a friend, do anything other than playing Candy Crush. As it consumes less of your time, your focus will shift to other things. Actually the fact that you are recognizing that this may be a problem is a good sign. Thanks for your great question Kerry.

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