Dear Barb:
Hi, I am in my thirties and most of my friends are around my age or a little older. We are all starting to get crow’s feet and sunspots on our skin. I am okay with this, but a lot of my friends are spending loads of money on botox, filler, and other anti-aging procedures. When I’m around them I feel like I look so much older. I really don’t want to spend my money and time on these procedures, but I hate being the old looking one in the group. Any suggestions on how I can resolve this feeling within myself?
Feeling old in Halifax!
Thanks, Sharon
Hi Sharon:
I can’t believe you are feeling old and you’re only in your thirties, although I can understand where these feelings are coming from. The majority of actresses in the movies go to great lengths to look younger and that leaves the rest of us feeling much the same as you are feeling?old! What they are doing is superficial, you can’t stop the clock. We are all aging and these procedures only delay outward appearances. It is an expensive regime to keep up. What would happen if they suddenly couldn’t afford these procedures? Ultimately, the aging process would catch up with them and it would be a quick return to reality. Obviously, you are accepting of yourself?and this is what most people strive to achieve. My advice to you is that you should not compare yourself to anyone, it isn’t necessary. The other day I read an interesting quote by Theodore Roosevelt which would apply here: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Be happy with who you are and how you look. Thanks for your interesting question, I’m sure a lot of people will be able to relate.
Dear Barb:
I have more of a pet peeve than a question! I have a few friends that have young children and we have play dates at each other’s homes with our three and four year olds. My son is three years old and I have a few friends that bring their infants with them to the play dates. I can understand this as a babysitter is expensive. The problem is when they come to my house, they often hand me the baby to hold while they go and play with the older kids. Don’t get me wrong, I love babies, but I really don’t want to hold someone else’s baby for two hours while they play with my son! So please mothers, when you are going for a play date, if possible find a sitter for your baby, or take care of them yourself!
Thanks for letting me vent, Brenda!
Hey Brenda:
Well said! The only thing I would add is that perhaps you could stipulate these guidelines when you are establishing the play dates. This will prevent anyone from getting hurt feeling and perhaps feeling singled out; as the rules have been established and clearly stated right from the get go. Enjoy!
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