Dear Barb – Ways to See the World

Dear Barb:

I am in my twenties and feeling very disillusioned with life. When I turn on the TV all I hear about is killing, wars, beheading, rape, homelessness, child abuse, domestic violence, the list goes on and on. With all this violence and abuse in the world how can there be a loving, caring God? And why would he allow people to suffer like this?
Disheartened Ken.

Hi Ken:

Your feelings are totally understandable, but there is a lot of good in the world although it is more difficult to find. Unfortunately tragedies generate higher ratings for the media. One single event ends up being played over and over again until it starts to feel like it was not just one tragedy but many. I don’t know whether you can blame this on God as man has been given free will and most of these horrible events were a choice someone made. The only thing you can do is choose not to expose yourself to the negative images and stories you see on TV and read in the paper, fill your mind with healthy, happy images and you will begin to feel happier and more content. Hope this helps.

Dear Barb:

My husband and I just bought a new 31 foot motorhome. We love it and have plans to travel this summer. The problem is our friends and our adult children are asking us to borrow it. In fact my son and daughter were arguing about who would get it for which weeks! We don’t really want to lend it out, it is brand new and, also, we want the option of going out whenever we feel like it. Besides, I worry that people will not be able to take care of it properly. For example, if the tanks are not emptied regularly they could back up into the motorhome and create a lot of damage. My kids say we are being selfish and we should at least allow them to use it. What do you think, are we being selfish? Katherine.

Hey Katherine:

No, I don’t think You’re being selfish. It is your motorhome and last time I checked I’m pretty sure you spent a great deal of money on it. It is your decision what you do with your motorhome. That being said, it would be nice to include your children on some of your trips. They could pitch a tent and sleep outside, or if there is enough room, stay in the motorhome with you and your husband. Family vacations are fun and It’s a great way to create memories for your children and grandchildren. So enjoy and don’t hesitate to set your own rules.

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