Letters to the Editor—A Plea to Megan

I beg you, Megan (the lady who wrote Dear Barb), please don’t leave your husband.

I agree with Barb Godin in her recent Dear Barb column. Divorcing a husband, especially when you have children, spells trouble.  Web MD author, Sid Kirchheimer, says, “A new study shows that children of single-parent homes are more than twice as likely to commit suicide.”  Just as troubling, The Morning Call author, Bob Linton, says, “70% of criminals are from broken homes.”  Also, according to VeryWell Family, “Adult children of divorce tend to have lower-paying jobs and less college education than their parents.”   And “children of divorced parents are twice as likely to drop out of high school.”

But if that’s not enough reason to save your marriage, consider this: your divorce is 50% likely to lead to a second divorce.  According to VeryWell Family, “approximately 50% of American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage.  Of these, close to half will see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage.  One of every 10 children whose parents have divorced will also see three or more subsequent parental marriage breakups.”   As author Paul Friedman says, your husband gave you his vows.  He chose you, and you chose him. He is there for you where others are not. He cares for your children as much as you do.  Isn’t that incredible on its own? You have the ideal person to learn how to love unconditionally. And I believe we all need to learn to love unconditionally before we exit this world.

As for Megan, who wrote Dear Barb, I beg you, don’t leave your husband.  Instead, try the books and course from The Marriage Foundation.  If you heed my advice, I guarantee your family will flourish—and you will realize one of your grandest life purposes: how to love unconditionally.

Otherwise, you and your loved ones suffer.

Woefully signed, Marie Well.