Dear Barb—A Separated Christmas

Dear Barb:

As Christmas approaches I have been feeling more down than usual.  I haven’t seen my parents for almost a year and my kids haven’t seen their grandparents.  My parents both suffer from health issues and I don’t want to take the chance and put them at risk.  We are doing zoom visits but it’s just not the same.  My kids want to play with their grandparents.  I know I’m not the only one feeling this way, but sometimes it seems that way.  I miss so much of my former life. 

My kids are 3 and 7 and I want to make Christmas as special as I can considering they won’t be able to see their grandparents.  I will drop off Christmas dinner at my parents, but basically we will only see them at a distance.  I keep hoping something miraculous will happen and things will go back to normal by Christmas.  I guess I was hoping maybe some of your readers would be able to share some tips on how they are able to make Christmas special for their families.  Thanks for listening, Penny. 

Hi Penny:

It a rough time for everyone and I’m sure a lot of people will relate to your letter.  I have found some information that may help, and hopefully readers will send in their tips and suggestions on how to get through this holiday season during the pandemic as well.

Although everything is going to be different this year it’s important to find ways to still make this a meaningful and special Christmas.  A big difference for the kids is their visit with Santa.  Most cities and towns are offering activities and virtual visits with Santa, so you can check out what your city is offering.  According to COVID-19 safety measures indoor gatherings are basically out.  Since you will be getting together with family outside, do some outdoor decorating.  For example, decorate a tree outside, but have it so it can be viewed from inside as well.  Put up Christmas lights on your deck or patio.   Many parks are providing drive through access to see the lights, rather than walking together as a group.  Each family unit can pile into their own self decorated car, perhaps with Christmas lights, and follow each other while breathing in the Christmas spirit.  I know it’s difficult when you can’t follow your own traditions, but change can bring about new and memorable traditions.  Below are some websites with some great advice for a fun filled and safe Covid Christmas.  Thanks Penny.

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