What does it mean when we can’t make friends? It means we need to be exposed to a course that shows an exact system for making instant friends everywhere we go. I took that course! It made going to the store no longer mundane and more like an invitation to an exciting party. It’s a party where we meet someone new, instantly share stories, feel connected, and smile nonstop at each other!
Today, I went to pick up dinner, and, as I neared the restaurant, I grew very excited. I knew I’d have a wonderful conversation with at least one person. And yes, the hostess and I had a great discussion, and I carefully followed the system for conversing laid out in the course, which is becoming natural. And she and I had a blast. And just before that, I excitedly went into the Dollar Store, chitchatted with two customers who held the door for me, and then had a lovely conversation with the cashier. The cashier and I beamed at each other as we waved farewell. Earlier, I had many delightful conversations with multiple staff at a grocery store and a customer whose coffee I accidentally almost drank. We all shared stories and laughed.
But life wasn’t a constant endorphin rush before the course. Quite the contrary! I had been more reserved and struggled in social situations. I failed to connect with people, and they wouldn’t open up to me. I often felt bad, like I just didn’t quite fit in. I thought poor social dynamics were burnt into my DNA. But all it took to transform my social world into one big social party was a single online course.
For example, when I went to the cash register today at the dollar store, I complimented the cashier for the pretty blonde highlights in her hair. She thanked me, and then I asked her if she had plans for the weekend. She hesitated and said she was just going to work. She looked sad for a moment. And then she became quiet. I knew from the course that, had she revealed something more about her weekend, I would’ve found it easier to use it as a topic to continue the conversation. But she didn’t, so I praised her for her work ethic. And then she asked me how my weekend looked. I didn’t say, “Nothing is going on” or “Just doing the usual.” These empty phrases don’t share anything, build trust, or give her anything to use to continue the conversation.
Instead, I said, “I’m going swimming Saturday and Sunday, and I’m making an online course. It’s a hobby of mine.” We smiled broadly at each other, and she said, “Great!” She looked truly happy. I wanted to ask her what her favorite pastime was, but the lineup was getting big, and she was the only cashier. So I smiled broadly and held her gaze as I waved goodbye. We smiled genuinely at each other, and she waved back. It’s important to smile when we end a conversation. And then I left, elated to have made a beautiful connection with another human soul.
In what happened above, I indicated a few strategies taught in my course, but there is so much more in the class that I can’t begin to cover in an article. The study took four days to complete but cost $35 a month for about ten months. Truly, I felt it was worth every penny. Life is a big happy party now—everywhere I go.
So, if we don’t want to miss out on learning about the wonderful lives and interests of others, consider looking up a course for what you want to do. It’s money invested in turning life into a constant love fest with everyone we meet. Nothing is more exciting than to share a burst of love with another human being. And nothing is more rewarding than making friends everywhere we go.
